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(The Power of Bad) written by John Tierney and Roy F Baumeister.
(10 Aug 26)
One of the best books I read. It explores a
powerful idea: Negative experiences often have a stronger psychological impact
than equally positive ones.
The book aims to explain the “negativity
effect”. why bad events, criticism, losses, fears, and negative information
tend to affect us more strongly than positive experiences.
The authors argue that understanding this
tendency can help us make better decisions, build stronger relationships,
become more resilient, and avoid being unnecessarily controlled by fear and
negativity.
The main five main points of the book are:
1. Bad is often stronger than
good.
Negative
experiences usually have a greater psychological impact than positive ones. A
single criticism can sometimes stay in our minds longer than several
compliments.
2. Our brains are naturally
sensitive to threats.
Humans evolved to pay close attention to danger
because recognizing threats was essential for survival. This can make us focus
too much on problems, risks, and bad news—even when things are generally going
well.
3. Negative information can
influence our decisions.
Fear and negative information can distort how
we judge situations. We may overestimate risks and make choices based on
avoiding losses rather than pursuing opportunities.
4. Negativity can spread
between people.
Bad moods, complaints, criticism, and conflict
can spread through families, workplaces, and social groups. However, positive
habits and constructive behavior can also counteract this effect.
5. We can learn to manage the
power of bad.
The message isn't to ignore negative things. Instead, we should recognize negativity without allowing it to dominate our thinking. By putting bad experiences into perspective, focusing on facts, and deliberately noticing positive experiences, we can become more resilient and make better choices.
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(Quiet Impact) written by Sylvia Loehken.
(20 Aug 26)
This book is one of the useful books that I read and summarized.
The main idea of it is that (You do not have to be loud, highly social, or
constantly visible to make a meaningful impact).
The author states clearly that: (In a world that
often rewards people who speak first and speak loudly, Quiet Impact reminds us
that quiet people can be powerful, successful, and influential in their own way).
The main five main points of the book are:
1. Being quiet is not a weakness:
Introversion is not
something that needs to be “fixed.” Quiet people often bring valuable qualities
such as independence, perseverance, thoughtful communication, and strong
listening skills.
2. Use your natural strengths:
You don't need to
copy an extrovert's style to succeed. Understand what you naturally do well and
build your career and relationships around those strengths.
3. Think before you speak — but don't
stay silent:
Introverts often
prefer to think carefully before responding. This can be a strength, but it is
also important to make your ideas heard. Good
ideas have value only when we are willing to share them.
4. Protect your energy:
Too much social
interaction, noise, or stimulation can be exhausting for some introverts.
Taking time alone is not being antisocial, it can be a way to recharge, think
clearly, and perform at your best.
5. You can have a quiet presence and a strong impact:
Leadership is not always about being the
loudest person in the room. Listening, preparing carefully, asking thoughtful
questions, showing empathy, and consistently delivering results can create a
powerful form of influence.
1. Success does not have one personality type.
2. You don't have to become louder to become more effective.
3. You don't have to change who you are to make an impact.
